Have you started?

So, I am about half way through the book and am thoroughly enjoying it, so far. I would be nearly done except I left it in California- doh! It's been interesting to read it and compare it to my memories of my own adolescence as well as that of my sister who is a current adolescent. It has also made me acutely aware of the sexism that infects our society, especially in the media.
I have also been particularly sensitive to how it relates to Olivia. My biggest pet peeve lately is when people automatically assume that Olivia is a "tom-boy" because she is active and likes trains. Who claimed trains for the male gender, I ask you that, especially trains that are named Thomas and Lucy? Why are we as a society so dead-set on categorizing people? Traditionally, little girls are supposed to like pink and dolls and be dainty, and boys are supposed to be active, and like cars and smashing stuff. I acknowledge that there are differences between the male and female gender. It's an obvious fact. But why is it when a child's preference varies or differentiates from the "norm" are we so quick to categorize? Why can't she like trains and dress-ups ? The seemingly harmless labeling that begins at such a young age irritates the crap out of me. Especially in light of reading this book.
It seems particualy prevelent in our LDS community, because we belong to a religion that supports traditional family roles. There seems to be a lot of confusion (at least in my experience) between "roles" and gender stereo-typing. For instance, there's the whole train/tomboy issue. My question, I guess, is this: how can I (we) help my children feel secure in their sense of self despite these outside comments and lables from others?

FYI: I've finally come up with a response to when people call Olivia a tomboy. I just say she is a woman of many interests and that seems to shut them up.

So, anyone else reading the book and more importantly where are the pictures of Katie's new man-child?